Girl Wash Your Face Discussion Questions – Chapters 11-15


Below you will find the Girl Wash Your Face guide that we used in my adult small group. I hope you find this helpful for your Girl Wash Your Face book club or small group. If you have questions to add, please put them in the comments below and I will happily add them to this post.

Also to note: you know your group! If a question doesn’t hit home with you or your group, skip it! I also don’t require everyone to answer every question, especially on the nights when we are a group of 10. However, I will pick on the quiet ones sometimes if I feel like they aren’t being heard or would benefit from discussing a particular question.

Questions for Every Week

There are a few questions I always ask in group. These Girl Wash Your Face guide  questions are intentionally very open-ended. It is ok if there is no real response to these first questions. I like to ask these questions because it gives group members an opportunity to voice questions, concerns, deep thoughts, or anything that was weighing heavy on them after reading the chapter.

1. Can someone Summarize the chapter for the group?

This is to catch up those members who didn’t actually read the chapter. It happens, and I like to do this to be gracious and inclusive.

2. Did anything jump out at you? What did you think of the chapter?

 

Chapter 11:

1. What areas do you feel are out of control?
2. Do you think that you have room in your life to embrace the chaos?
3. Do you have too many things on your plate?

I like to think of your time/energy as “cups”. Every person has 10 cups. And you only have 10 cups of water. But many people tend to commit to 15 cups worth of things. When that happens, you will inevitably drop something in the process of trying to fill 10 cups with 15 cups of water.

Example of what my cups look like: Currently, 4 of my cups are family and child care, 2 are household responsibilities, 1 is devoted to small groups at church, 2 are devoted to work, and one is for myself.

4. What “fruit of the spirit” do you need most in your life right now? What do you think would refresh you the most?

Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self control

5. Do you think you are good at accepting help from others?
6. What are your top three priorities?

 

Chapter 12: I need to make myself smaller

1. Do you feel like you make yourself smaller for other people?
2. Do you feel mom guilt?
3. What areas do you allow yourself to be small in?
4. Rachael suggests that you consume content in an area you feel you are muting. What content do you think you need to seek out?

This question in meant to prompt resource sharing.

A note that she does not talk about in the book. I believe that the areas that you down play to others are the areas that God has blessed you with great skill or talent. When we make our self small, it is often to make ourselves more acceptable to other people. Being ridiculously talented is intimidating to others. So we shrink it. Embrace what God has uniquely gifted you with. And admire those gifts in others.

 

Chapter 13: I will marry Matt Damon

1. Do you day dream about your goals?
2. What do you dream about most?
3. Do you feel like it is helpful to have motivational images or quotes around you? If so, what kind of inspiration do you need right now? And where should you pin up that motivation?
4. What of the three things would/does help you the most?

write it down, saying it out loud, create a vision board

 

Chapter 14: I am a terrible writer

“Whether or not something is good or worth is up for interpretation. And if you are unconcerned about other people’s interpretation, then everything you create is fantastic.”

1. Have you ever been crushed by something critical someone said, in real life or on the internet?

If you do not see yourself as an artist or creator (of any kind), think about one of these areas: work, parenting, leader of a group, maintaining your home, fitness or workout life.

2. For the non-artists: Do you allow the “I’m not creative” thoughts to stop you from engaging in the joy of creating?

Or phrased another way: do you allow yourself to be muted because you can’t create perfection? (are you your worst critic)

Examples of creating: crafts, baking, “fancy cooking”, dancing, writing, etc.

My thoughts: creating is an action, not something that must be perfect or instagramable.

3. What do you do (or want to do) that leaves you open to critics?
4. Do you let those critics get to you? And how does that affect your work?
5. Do you think it is easier or harder to tune out critics from strangers vs friends and family?
6. What would you do, or how would it affect your work if you tuned them all out?

 

Chapter 15

1. Is there anything weighing on you that you want to share with the group?
2. What has helped you most when dealing with difficult circumstances?
3. If you feel like you are on the other side of a trauma, what do you wish you could have told yourself back then?

 

Chapter 16

1. Do you have a story of when you felt called by God to do something?
2. Is there a call that you ever ignored? And What made you “say no”?
3. Do you believe that it is possible for God to ask you to do something?

 

Chapter 17:

1. Do you think you show your body respect when it comes to food and exercise?
2. Rachel suggests that you come up with a montra to help reshape your thinking. Did you come up with a montra?
3. What stands in the way of you making better decisions?
4. How can this group help keep you accountable?
5. Is there a tiny step you can take this week to create a positive habit?

 

Chapter 18:

1. If you are honest with yourself, how is your relationship with alcohol?

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Girl Wash Your Face Discussion Questions – Chapters 6-10

Below you will find the Girl Wash Your Face discussion questions that we used in my adult small group. I hope you find this helpful for your Girl Wash Your Face book club or small group. If you have questions to add, please put them in the comments below and I will happily add them to this post.

Also to note: you know your group! If a question doesn’t hit home with you or your group, skip it! I also don’t require everyone to answer every question, especially on the nights when we are a group of 10. However, I will pick on the quiet ones sometimes if I feel like they aren’t being heard or would benefit from discussing a particular question.

Questions for Every Week

There are a few questions I always ask in group. These Girl Wash Your Face book club discussion questions are intentionally very open-ended. It is ok if there is no real response to these questions. I like to ask these questions because it gives group members an opportunity to voice questions, concerns, deep thoughts, or anything that was weighing heavy on them after reading the chapter.

1. Can someone Summarize the chapter for the group?

This is to catch up those members who didn’t actually read the chapter. It happens, and I like to do this to be gracious and inclusive.

2. Did anything jump out at you? What did you think of the chapter?

 

Chapter 6: No is the final answer

1. What are some of your big goals in life?
2. Are there any dreams that you have let go of because some one told you no? Do you wish you hadn’t? Or can you recall a time when someone told you no, and you pushed ahead anyway?

“Nothing that lasts is accomplished quickly. Nobody’s entire legacy is based on a single moment.”

3. What voice do you give into most easily?

The sources of “no” that Rachel gives are: authority (boss, parent, spouse, friend), difficulty/it takes too long, personal hardships

4. What do you need to do to work towards your goals?

Make a plan? Make a call? Do some dreaming? Actually do a thing?

 

Chapter 7: I’m Bad at Sex

This is another chapter, where the Girl Wash Your Face book club questions are going to depend a lot on where your group is in life.

1. Can you relate to Rachel’s experience?
2. How would you rank your current sex life? And are you happy with where it is?
3. How do you think that a poor sex life is effecting your relationship?
4. A lot of women see sex as a chore or obligation in marriage. If that is you, what causes you to see it that way?
5. If you are not in a relationship at the moment, what can you right now to improve your view of sex for your future husband/partner?

 

Chapter 8: I don’t know how to be a mom

There are a lot of Girl Wash Your Face Book Club questions here. Select the ones that make the most sense for the stage of life of your group.

1. Do you/did you feel like you don’t know what you are doing when it comes to motherhood?
2. What causes you to doubt yourself?

Judgment of your parents or in-laws? Life not living up to Instagram or Pintrest expectations? Expectations set by friends or family?

3. Are you worried or scared of becoming a mom? What are you most worried about?
4. What can you do to prepare yourself or help you feel more confident? or what suggestions does the group have to help you be more prepared?

If your group is all pre-children, I’d like to add my own note here:

Watching your nephew or best friend’s baby is not a full proof solution to feeling more confident or prepared.

You will know your own child in a way that you can’t possibly know that another person’s child, because you will be spending 24 hours a day with your own baby (at least in the beginning). In that time you learn pretty quickly, he likes to be held up, not laid down, she likes that paci and not the green one, he hates the mozart music but will fall asleep to wave sounds in a flash. All these things you learn by trial and error with your own child.

It is hard to learn all of those things about a child in a few hours of babysitting. I just don’t want you to feel like “I’m a failure with other children, so I’ll be a failure with my own children.”

5. What do you wish you could go back and tell yourself?
6. Do you feel like you have a “tribe” or other women to talk to about motherhood?

 

Chapter 9: I am a Bad Mom

1. When do you feel like a bad mom?
2. When you think about your own childhood, what are the things you want to avoid?
3. When you think about your own childhood, what are the things that you benefited from that you want to incorporate into your own parenting?
4. What kind of children do you want to raise?
5. What stresses you out the most thinking about your children’s future?

Either your unborn, future children OR the future of the children you currently have

6. What of the three things would help you the most to feel differently about motherhood?

 

Chapter 10: I should be further along by now

1. Think back 10 years ago. Where did you think you would be?
2. Are you happy with where you are now in comparison to where you thought you would be?
3. What are of your life do you “feel you should be further along”?
4. When you ask yourself honestly, are those feelings internally motivated or externally motivated?

Examples of Internal Motivation:

  • I want this for myself and no one else.
  • I want this because it helps me in a long term goal.

Examples of External Motivation:

  • My parents expect me to ___.
  • When I look at my friends/co-workers, their life looks different, and I think my life should look more like theirs.
  • I feel a societal pressure to hit certain milestones by a certain age.
5. Thinking about the areas you want to work on, what changes do you need to make to reach your goals?

 

 

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Girl Wash Your Face Discussion Questions – Chapters 1-5

My adult small group has been reading Girl Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis for a few weeks (…months) now. When we started, I was stunned to find that there were no Girl Wash Your Face discussion questions. I scoured Pintrest, the internet, and Rachel Hollis’ own website looking for discussion questions. One of my group members did have a discussion guide that she had received as an email sign up bonus from Rachel Hollis. But this guide is hard to find, and wasn’t very useful for our group. Most of the questions felt like comprehension questions, and not questions that probed the group to think.

Below you will find the Girl Wash Your Face discussion questions that we used in our group. I hope you find this helpful for your small group. If you have questions to add, please put them in the comments below and I will happily add them to this post.

Also to note: you know your group! If a question doesn’t hit home with you or your group, skip it! I also don’t require everyone to answer every question, especially on the nights when we are a group of 10. However, I will pick on the quiet ones sometimes if I feel like they aren’t being heard or would benefit from discussing a particular question.

Questions for Every Week

There are a few questions I always ask in group. These Girl Wash Your Face discussion questions are intentionally very open-ended. It is ok if there is no real response to these questions. I like to ask these questions because it gives group members an opportunity to voice questions, concerns, deep thoughts, or anything that was weighing heavy on them after reading the chapter.

1. Can someone Summarize the chapter for the group?

This is to catch up those members who didn’t actually read the chapter. It happens, and I like to do this to be gracious and inclusive.

2. Did anything jump out at you? What did you think of the chapter?

 

Chapter 1: Something Else will make me happy

1. Which of the three things that helped Rachel is most helpful to you?
2. On a scale of 1 – 10 how often do you seek happiness or fulfillment from “worldly things”? one meaning, I feel content no matter the situation and ten meaning, I’m constantly thinking about the next thing.
3. Do you think you could identify what makes you happy? what is it?
4. What is something you could do this week/month/year to make you happier or more content?

 

Chapter 2: I’ll start tomorrow

1. Do you actively think about self improvement? Or do you feel like life is just happening to you?
2. What are some goals or dreams you have for yourself?
3. What promises do you continually break to yourself?
4. What causes you to break those promises?
5. What is a small goal you can commit to for 30 days?

 

Chapter 3: I’m not Good Enough

I’ll be honest, my group struggled with this chapter. I don’t think that Rachel did a  good job tying “workaholic” back to “I’m not good enough”. I tried to redirect the discussion back to “the lie” in the questions.

1. What areas of your life do you feel like you are not good enough?
2. Rachel’s feeling of “I’m not good enough” manifested it self as spending too many hours at work. What do you tend to do when you feel like you aren’t good enough?

Over working? Defensive? Shut Down?

3. Part of how we cure the lie of “I’m not good enough” is through healthy self care and building ourselves up. What kind of self care are you missing?
4. Our priorities say a lot about what is important to us. If someone from the outside looked at how you spent your energy, what would they say are your top 3 priorities?
5. What do you want your top three priorities to be?

 

Chapter 4: I’m Better than you

My favorite line from this chapter:

“Our judgement prohibits us from beautiful, life-affirming friendships. Our judgement keeps us from connecting in deeper richer ways because we’re too stuck on the surface-level assumptions we’ve made.”

1. Are there any toxic relationships that you have in your life?
2. Are there any relationships that aren’t as strong as they could be because of your judgement of the other person?
3. On a scale of 1 – 10, how judgemental do you think you are? Why?
4. What topics do you struggle with the most when it comes to judging other people? Or What do you judge people the most on?

Clothes? Income? State of their house? Education? Kids behavior?

5. What strategies would help you the most to see people differently/not be judgemental?

 

Chapter 5: Loving him is enough for me

There are a lot of Girl Wash Your Face discussion questions here. Select the ones that make the most sense for the stage of life of your group.

1. If you are currently in a relationship, do you think that relationship is healthy?
2. Do you have people in your life that can be a sounding board for your relationship? Are you/would you listen to them?
3. Be honest with yourself. Are there things about your relationship that you hide because you know how they will sound? Is there someone you need to share those things with?

I wouldn’t require an answer for this question. My goal with this question is to stir up feelings and thoughts in any of your group members that are in a silently bad relationship. My hope is that they will confide in you after group if they aren’t comfortable sharing in group.

You might also want to consider, throwing it out there, that you are always open to listen or meet for coffee if someone needs to share something one on one.

4. Have you been in a romantic relationship that was unhealthy? If so, looking back, what were the signs that it had turned sour?
5. Do you know someone in a bad romantic relationship? Are you being a sounding board for them?
6. Is there someone in your life that would benefit from hearing your “bad relationship” story?

A sister? Cousin? Niece? Friend?

7. What are the consequences of staying in a bad relationship?
8. What guardrails can you put up to save you from a bad relationship? What guardrails do you have already?

Guardrails = rules for dating. Example: no kissing on the first date, no sex, etc. Or: I don’t tolerate guys who say things to tear me down, I won’t stay with a guy if he prioritizes his friends over me.

 

 

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Noah and the Ark Bible Study – Mountain Top Series – Week 2

noah and the ark bible study

We jump forward a couple of chapters in Genesis to the story of Noah. In the Noah and the Ark Bible Study we will read most of the story of Noah and his family.

In week two we talk about Noah and the Ark. As we read the full story of Noah we again get to see God’s forgiveness. We also see that it is not the sweet, picture perfect story we often hear as children.


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Read

If you can, I highly recommend reading all the passages for the Noah and the Ark Bible Study out of a physical Bible. Reading from a printed copy will better ensure that you will not be distracted. As much I am a fan of all things digital, there is no replacement for real books.

However, I would rather you read a digital version, than not read at all.

The one big advantage of using an online Bible, such as YouVersion, is that you can find a version of the Bible that is best for you. My family reads most often from The Message or New International Version.

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The Tough Questions

The story of Noah often brings up some tough questions that make it hard to believe that it could be true. Below I have collected some links to articles that best answer these questions.

If you haven’t gone through the study yet, stop.

I always believe it is best to read God’s word first before reading commentary. Give God a chance to speak to you before you start inviting human perspective into the equation.

Is there Historical Proof of a Great Flood?

Was there really a great flood? – How Stuff Works

How did the animals fit on the ark?

How did Noah fit all the animals on the ark? – Got Questions.com

How did all the animals fit on Noah’s ark? – Creation.com

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